The one who cares the least has control of the relationship.

Thursday, October 30, 2008

When I read that sentence I felt like I had been hit in the face with a sledgehammer. It was crazy, but it began to make sense piece by piece: the one who loves more has less control, and is more emotionally invested in ‘making things work’, also may seem less rational than the other, and more compromising. The one who cares and respects the other partner less actually is in the best position to shape the relationship. With that in mind the gravity of such actions were made clear: it was a power play. You don’t care? You’ve got the power to hurt those who do. Was that what it was about? Power and control?

Disgusting. Absofuckinglutely disgusting.


4 Responses to “The one who cares the least has control of the relationship.”

  1. lenniez said

    i agree. but i dont think its healthy. šŸ˜¦

    i can only hope that others realize that too… and instead of struggling for power and control, realize that in order for things to work, “care” shouldnt be measured… rather it should be something they want to give unconditionally becuz they wanna keep their significant other happy with them.

    cuz at the end of the day, i think it hurts the most when someone u’re with says, “i’m not happy with you.” – been there.

  2. varalas said

    I suppose the idealist in me hates that that is how things are. I’ve seen it happen before, as well as done it. It’s sick to think that the less you bother about your partner, the harder they work, just to win your approval and love.

    Mr. L

  3. lenniez said

    tell u whats sicker…

    when A really likes B, so B pours a massive amount of effort into making things work for whatever reason, be it guilt, in the name of ‘doing the right thing’ or is just trying to ‘pull their weight in the rship’. A then thinks he/she “controls” the rship and takes advantage of B.

    happens & happened.

  4. lenniez said

    and i forgot to add… i idealist in me cringes at the reality of that too. šŸ˜¦ also happened before, as well as done it.

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